~Lets Bygones Be Bygones~

Another day has gone by without you by my side,without your text, without your call. Everything without you. I don't know how long I can go further without you by my side. Do anyone have the answer for this question? If you know the answer for this question, please do let me know because I don't want to be suffer anymore. I'm sick of this feeling! Nevertheless, I still have to go on with my own life no matter like or dislike the answer. Even though its a short time of period for you and me but then I appreciated all the moment.

"Living in the past is kind of like living in a coffin...it's totally constraining, and ends up being a lid on your growth" - Doug Firebaugh

 Catching your thoughts in action. 

When you think of one thing that is long gone, it will lead you to another thought. It appears on your mental screen. In your normal and habitual way, you attend to them and entertain old dialogs and arguments. Soon they will evoke your emotions and you are back to the old days.


If you want to deal with them, you need to catch yourself each time when the first thought appears. Look at your mental screen of images as though it is happening to someone else so that you do not feel attached to the memory. Mentally move the image further from you and reduce the noise that you are hearing.

If you think this is silly, reflect back. Can you recall hearing a song or seeing a movie that you have watched playing again in your head? How did you shut them off? The same applies with your memories. You can do the same.



 Learning from them. 

Your memories of those years gone by are useful only if you learn from them and invest those experiences to better yourself. What's advisable to do in the present moment is to make better decisions and do something new or different.


Your present actions, behavior, attitudes and the people you are associating with now are going to become your past. You would definitely want to create as many good recollections as you can, don't you?



 Release and forgive. 

One of the ways to release the baggage and make peace with your past is to let go. Let bygones be bygones.


Put yourself in a relaxed state of mind by meditating. In this quiet moment, look within and get in touch with your emotions. Communicate within and ask yourself how feel about the thing that is bothering you. Tell the little you inside to let go. Affirm to yourself that you will choose to forgive.